An interview with psychiatrist, Frank, about being the gay father of two boys. Frank describes his sense that he always wanted children, and how he told his husband very early in their relationship that this was part of who he was. He describes the steps they have taken to raise their children in safe and accepting communities, and how they have been able to protect them from homophobia. Nonetheless, Frank describes the all too real sense of danger and hate that exists in our culture, such that he felt the need to do the interview anonymously. Frank also describes his experience of finding a surrogate to conceive and bear the child, and their family’s story of staying connected to their surrogate. Frank explores assumptions people make about his ability to nurture and take care of his children, and the intrusive offers of help he sometimes receives in public settings.