An interview with author and professor, Dr. Vernon Wiehe about sibling abuse and how it differs from sibling rivalry. He describes a pattern of frequent victimization of one sibling at the hands of another, usually older sib, with long lasting consequences in the life of the victim. Dr. Wiehe points out that sibling abuse is even more common that domestic violence or child abuse, but is often minimized by parents. He describes ways to prevent it, including not leaving younger children alone in the care of their older siblings if the younger one doesn’t feel safe, talking to children openly about violence and sexuality, setting limits with privacy, listening to children and believing them. He also talks about the now pervasive influence of violent video games and television shows and how violence begets further violence, through modeling and desensitization. He encourages survivors not to waste time looking for an apology from the sibling who abused them, but to pour that energy into seeking healing in therapy.