An interview with Drew Wing, executive director of Boys To Men, an organization devoted to reducing interpersonal violence by fostering the healthy development of boys. Drew describes their Reducing Sexism and Violence Program (RSVP), working with teenagers to develop empathy for the experience of others, and to clarify their potential roles as bystanders who can intervene in situations of violent speech, attitudes or behavior. Drew describes the chilling story of Kitty Genovese’s murder that was witnessed by many who did nothing to help. He describes the importance of doing something early and taking any action possible to help de-escalate a violent situation. He also described the ways that our current culture of masculinity, which emphasizes violence, sexual conquest, and slacker culture contributes to assumptions of superiority and entitlement among men. RSVP aims to challenge this understanding of masculinity and its representation in the media in order for both men and women to feel safer to be themselves.