An interview with Lundy Bancroft, the former co-leader of Emerge, the first batterers treatment program in the United States. He is the Author of, Why Does He Do That: inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. Lundy debunks common myths about abusers, explaining that the man does not have an anger problem, or a problem with conflict resolution. He explains that violence happens in a larger context of control, in which the man attempts to control who she sees, what she does, what she wears, how she parents, etc. He explains that abuse is deliberate and based on the man’s thinking that he is superior, and entitled and justified in treating her this way. He describes the need for prevention by changing the culture which fosters the feeling of entitlement among boys. He decries the idea that “boys will be boys, ” which turns a blind eye to the attitudes that foster domestic violence. He describes some of the necessary steps in taking responsibility for abuse that a man needs to go through in order for treatment of batterers to be successful.