An interview with Rachel Grant about the sexual abuse she suffered as a ten-year-old at the hands of her grandfather, and the work she has done to counteract its lasting impact on her life. Despite her training in psychotherapy Rachel became a coach because she wanted to be able to use her own story as a way to help others. Rachel describes the many beliefs that she and other abuse survivors often struggle with after abuse, things like: It was my fault, Something is wrong with me, I must have wanted it, or I have no value…. Rachel talks about the ways she worked to see these destructive interpretations for the bald face lies that they are. She made a key distinction between forgiveness, which she defines as “to send away” as a way to shed, or unburden the negative impacts of the abuse; and absolution of the perpetrator, which she does not recommend. Over years of work she has developed strategies to help herself and other survivors move forward with their lives so that the abuse no longer defines them.