A conversation with Julia Jarvis about how her relationship with her difficult father has evolved both before and after he got dementia. She describes how during her childhood, Julia’s father was moody, punitive, and sexually inappropriate. For this reason she limited her contact with him, but with the birth of her own children she allowed him a second chance to be a part of her life. Now that he has dementia, some of his previous tendencies have returned, but in a different form. Julia talks about her struggles to make peace with him, and about the challenges now faced by the caregivers in her father’s life.