An interview with author, adoptee and clinician, Joyce Maguire Pavao about parenting an adopted child. Joyce describes the changing demographics of adopted children, and how adopted children are increasingly older and may have experienced trauma as well as the loss of their birth family. Joyce asserts that “adoption doesn’t fix anything, ” and that each member of the adoptive relationship will still need to grieve their losses. She describes ways that families can honor the birth family and reassures parents that their child will not be confused about who their parents are, because they know so well who has raised them. Joyce describes the importance of early disclosure to adopted children about their own origins, and also tells her own story of finding and reconnecting with her birth family, with the support of her parents.
An interview with social psychologist and author, Susan Newman about the stigma and misinformation about only children. She describes studies that not only show that only children do not suffer from the lack of siblings but show improved academic achievement. She reports that the stereotypes of being spoiled, bossy and lonely do not hold up to research and that only children families are the fastest growing type of family in the US and in many parts of the western world, approaching a quarter of all families. She describes the factors that lead parents to have one child including wanting to give the child the best of their limited resources and time, wanting to avoid favoritism and rivalry, marriage and child-bearing happening later in life, secondary infertility, and the economy. Her books are Parenting Your Only Child, and The Case for the Only Child: Your essential Guide.
An interview with therapist, advocate and trauma survivor, Mary Auslander about the nature of trauma, the ingredients of recovery and what a person can realistically hope for as they heal from trauma. [Read more…]
An interview with psychologist Dr. Robert Childs on the difficulties and shame that adoptees face in talking to their adoptive families about their biological parents. [Read more…]