16-year-old Kyle talks about how he went from being bullied in middle school to becoming the face of the GSTA in his high school.
A conversation with lesbian high schooler Sianna about how she has taken a stand against homophobia in situations where no one else was on her side, and why she’s glad she had to.
This show is the first in a new series on the experiences of LGBTQ teens in Maine. This episode features a conversation with high school junior AJ, who identifies as gender-neutral. AJ discusses the challenges of not identifying as either a girl or a boy, and the value of finding allies within a new school.
An interview with Lundy Bancroft, the former co-leader of Emerge, the first batterers treatment program in the United States. He is the Author of, Why Does He Do That: inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. Lundy debunks common myths about abusers, explaining that the man does not have an anger problem, or a problem with conflict resolution. He explains that violence happens in a larger context of control, in which the man attempts to control who she sees, what she does, what she wears, how she parents, etc. He explains that abuse is deliberate and based on the man’s thinking that he is superior, and entitled and justified in treating her this way. He describes the need for prevention by changing the culture which fosters the feeling of entitlement among boys. He decries the idea that “boys will be boys, ” which turns a blind eye to the attitudes that foster domestic violence. He describes some of the necessary steps in taking responsibility for abuse that a man needs to go through in order for treatment of batterers to be successful.
An interview with Julia Colpitts, the Executive Director of the Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence. Julia affirms that Maine has reached a tipping point, where the recent murders of wives by their husbands has made it clear to everyone that change needs to happen. We discussed the current legislation that is pending in Maine to prevent offenders from being let out on bail without a criminal background check, that includes strangulation as a prosecutable offense, and that mandates a risk assessment to identify those abusers most at risk for lethal violence. Julia reports the ways that the mental health community has not always served victims well, by failing to do risk assessments, or by referring to couples therapy which can put the woman more at risk for violence. Julia describes the importance of engaging men to speak out clearly and powerfully about the necessity of treating women with love and respect.