An interview with elder-caregiving expert Carol Bradley Bursack about sibling conflict in the care of a parent with Dementia. Carol reports that most adult children caregivers are still women, and that typically the responsibilities of caregiving fall mostly to one child within a family. This creates the conditions for old resentments, jealousies, and conflicts to resurface, especially with regard to favoritism, money, inheritance, and hours of unacknowledged caregiving work. Carol tells stories of conflict and offers preventative suggestions for how families can navigate these challenges intact.
An interview with Sheila Heen, co-author of Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most and member of the Harvard Negotiation Project; about how she manages difficult conversations in her own marriage. Sheila and her husband are on opposite sides of the political spectrum and [Read more…]
An interview with Tim Wilson, a senior advisor to Seeds of Peace; bringing youth from war-torn countries together for dialogue each summer in Maine. Tim describes the way that trust, respect and communication are practiced at camp to build relationships that can foster peace throughout a lifetime. He tells the story of how an apology between a Palestinian and an Israeli boy helped build trust that effected relationships throughout the camp. He described the destructive pattern of kids competing to prove that their side had suffered more as a way to gain advantage. We spoke about his own formative experience losing a family member to the Klu Klux Klan, and how his parents had helped him overcome bitterness and hatred.
An interview with researcher and the director of the More Fun with Sisters and Brothers program, Laurie Kramer. Laurie explained that siblings don’t only feel rivalry and competition, they also have times of fun and connection. She suggested that parents attempts at conflict resolution often result in separating the kids. Rather than minimizing conflict which will be ubiquitous, Dr. Kramer argues that parents should find ways to increase the amount of time spent in having fun together. It is the ration of fun to conflict that matters most. Her program teaches siblings core skills of taking each other’s perspective, managing their own strong emotions and not assuming the worst about the other’s intention. She teaches kids to Stop-Think and Talk as a way to get out of conflict. She also teaches sibs ways to engage in play with each other that is fun.