This is part two of an interview with violence prevention educator, Daryl Fort, about ways in which we are all bystanders to social interactions that foster violence against women. Daryl challenges us to see these situations for what they are and to have the courage to intervene. He describes two everyday social situations in which it feels very risky to speak up and challenge what is going on; one in which guys are debriefing their sexual conquests together, and one in which a man is trying to get a woman drunk at a bar so he can have sex with her. He acknowledges how difficult it is for such verbal challenges to go well, and suggests that we make a clear decision ahead of time to act when someone is at risk.
Part one of an interview with violence prevention educator, Daryl Fort, about how the culture supports the superiority of men and the inferiority of women. He links the many levels of messages about women’s inferiority to the justification of mistreatment. He describes two gang rapes of young girls in which communities colluded to protect the rapists and to focus the conversation on the behavior, and dress of the victims. He describes the way that cultural assumptions that women are not to be taken seriously, result in minimization of the crimes against them. He makes a clear case that jokes and disrespectful language form the foundation and and basis for the eventual expression of violence against women.
An interview with terrorism expert Jessica Stern about her experience following a rape at age 15. Jessica speaks about the way her story was not believed by the police resulting in further rapes of over 40 children. She also addresses the way in which her father did not initially take the rape seriously and the way she felt pressured not to look into her past. Jessica describes the experience of living with PTSD, especially the confusing way in which she did not feel fear in dangerous situations (like interviewing terrorists in pakistan), while also feeling panicked by small triggers that she did not know were connected to the trauma. Ultimately Jessica developed the capacity to be intensely curious and empathic toward violent men as a way to try and make sense of what happened to her.
An interview with philosophy Professor Susan Brison who survived a sexual assault and attempted murder. Professor Brison describes the transition from needing to tell the story, to finding the story increasingly boring as she healed. She spoke about how group therapy, self-defense classes and jazz singing all helped her recover. She describes the pressure she felt from others to “buck up, ” and forget, and how difficult it is for others to listen to stories of trauma. She also describes her decision to go public because rape is a hate crime against women, and she felt committed to bear witness.
Susan’s next concert in on Wednesday, April 13th, from 12:30-1:30 pm in the Faulkner Auditorium for the Performing Arts, at the Hopkins Center at Dartmouth College in Hanover, NH. Tickets are free.
Sexual Assault: an interview with Julia Chafets, education coordinator with Sexual Assault Response Services on the short and long term impact of sexual assault on womens lives. She also reflects on how learning about rape effects young boys and women who are not assaulted.