An interview with Episcopal priest Carl Russell about the childhood sexual abuse he experienced at the hands of the priest of his family’s congregation. Carl tells the story of how both he and his family were groomed for the abuse, as the priest worked to gain his family’s trust and esteem. [Read more…]
An interview with yoga teacher and therapist Deirdre Fay about her experience of discovering her own trauma history through yoga. Deirdre reports that yoga is always an agent of transformation, that softened her defenses to the point that her body began to relive previously forgotten memories of trauma. [Read more…]
An interview with author and professor, Dr. Vernon Wiehe about sibling abuse and how it differs from sibling rivalry. He describes a pattern of frequent victimization of one sibling at the hands of another, usually older sib, with long lasting consequences in the life of the victim. Dr. Wiehe points out that sibling abuse is even more common that domestic violence or child abuse, but is often minimized by parents. He describes ways to prevent it, including not leaving younger children alone in the care of their older siblings if the younger one doesn’t feel safe, talking to children openly about violence and sexuality, setting limits with privacy, listening to children and believing them. He also talks about the now pervasive influence of violent video games and television shows and how violence begets further violence, through modeling and desensitization. He encourages survivors not to waste time looking for an apology from the sibling who abused them, but to pour that energy into seeking healing in therapy.
An interview with Deb, the author of the blog, Living in Stigma. Deb describes her experience of feeling written off by the mental health system after multiple psychiatric hospitalizations and 77 ECT treatments failed to help her. After being willing to try anything that might help her she met a new psychiatrist who took a real interest in her, spending time getting to know her, and letting her know he believed in her. This was a turning point for her, when she began to get up each day and do something no matter how depressed she felt. Deb describes the stigma of living with a mental illness and how unsafe she feels to share it with colleagues at work, for fear they will no longer take her seriously as a legitimate person.
An interview with body psychotherapist Betta de Boer van der Kolk about Tantra as a way to heal from sexual abuse. Betta describes Tantra as an exchange of energy that brings presence, connection, safety and play into sexuality. She teaches me a technique for couples to harmonize their breathing in order to give to each other through their bodies. She also describes ways that a woman can receive sexual healing through tantric massage, and men can learn to dissociate orgasm from ejaculation, in order to experience ejaculatory control.