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Shame

Shame Between Doctors and Patients with Aaron Lazare

September 19, 2016 by ssradmin

Psychiatrist Aaron Lazare talks about the impact of shame and humiliation, and how to repair the damage they cause. He also discusses how shame can complicate the relationship between doctors and patients, and what can be done to reduce it.

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Filed Under: Emotions, Mental Health Tagged With: medical encounter, Medical Trauma, medicine, Shame

Hidden Emotions

May 18, 2015 by ssradmin

This episode concludes Safe Space Radio’s series on loneliness, guilt, humiliation, and jealousy with a story that combines all four. We also revisit an earlier interview with Dr. Aaron Lazare about shame and humiliation and how these self-conscious emotions intersect with the feelings we hide.

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Filed Under: Emotions, Mental Health Tagged With: difficult conversations, difficult feelings, Hidden Emotions, Shame, stigma, talking

Childhood Humiliation

May 11, 2015 by ssradmin

This episode of Safe Space Radio looks at the ways children are humiliated in school, both intentionally and inadvertently, and how it can significantly impact the way they feel about themselves well into adulthood.

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Filed Under: Emotions, Family and Lifecycle, Mental Health Tagged With: childhood, childhood trauma, education, mental health, school culture, school system, Shame, stigma, teacher, teaching, Teens

Sudden Humiliation

May 4, 2015 by ssradmin

Humiliation: that moment when you feel like dirt in someone else’s eyes, which is often so hard to bear that we bury it without ever really putting it to rest. This week Safe Space Radio features two stories from people who felt suddenly exposed and humiliated, and we’ll talk about where things went from there.

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Filed Under: Emotions, Mental Health Tagged With: Amy, barista, classmates, embarrassment, expectation, Family, hospital, Humiliation, internal family systems, job, mortification, phone call, professional, Sara, Secrets, Shame, silence, stigma, story, storytelling, work, workplace

Working with Jealousy

April 27, 2015 by ssradmin

This episode of Safe Space Radio features two stories from people who have experienced jealousy in their professional lives—from the kind of jealousy that makes you feel inferior, to the kind that makes you want to disappear. We explore where it comes from and how to change our relationship to it.

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Filed Under: Emotions, Mental Health Tagged With: coworkers, difficult conversations, Friendship, Hidden Emotions, Humiliation, ideal, imposter syndrome, internal family systems, Jealousy, ministers, professional life, psychiatric practice, Secrets, Shame, spirituality, stigma, workplace

Guilt When You Hurt Someone

April 20, 2015 by ssradmin

This episode of Safe Space Radio features two stories about common types of guilt, often an emotion that nobody wants to admit to. One story is from childhood, the other from adulthood, and in both the teller hurt someone close to them, and has struggled to repair the damage to that person and to themselves.

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Filed Under: Emotions, Mental Health Tagged With: Bullying, childhood, emotional pain, Friendship, intimacy, meanness, Pain, relationships, romance, sex, Shame, stigma, Teens

Guilt When a Parent Dies

April 13, 2015 by ssradmin

Part of Safe Space Radio’s series on hidden feelings, this episode features two stories about guilt we might feel when we believe we didn’t do enough at the end of a parent’s life. We hear from people who were troubled by the way they failed to show up for their parents, and discuss the process …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions, Family and Lifecycle, Mental Health Tagged With: confusion, death, dying, end of life, father, Guilt, mother, Parenting, Parents, relief, secret, Shame, stigma

The Bite of Conscience with Herant Katchadourian

April 6, 2015 by ssradmin

In this episode, Safe Space Radio interviews Stanford professor of psychiatry and human biology Herant Katchadourian, author of the book Guilt: The Bite of Conscience, about the urge to confess our guilt, how it can be used as a weapon, and how we can know whether we feel too much of it or too little. …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions, Mental Health Tagged With: buddhism, emotions, Guilt, hidden, manipulation, Shame, stigma

Obsessive Confession with Rob

September 8, 2014 by ssradmin

In this episode of Safe Space Radio, psychotherapist Rob talks about his own anxiety, which makes him feel an insatiable need to confess things to those around him, and which can also lead to debilitating panic attacks. He talks about the various therapies he’s tried, including two which have greatly reduced his anxiety in the …read more »

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Filed Under: Mental Health Tagged With: Anxiety & Fear, confession, internal family systems, mental illness, panic attacks, Shame, stigma

Keeping Incarceration a Secret with Sonia

January 27, 2014 by ssradmin

This episode features a conversation with psychotherapist Sonia about her experience of arrest and imprisonment for possession of firearms and explosives as an anti-Vietnam War activist. In order to get professional licensure, Sonia waited years to get her record sealed, requiring her to keep her past a secret. She talks about what it has been …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions Tagged With: activism, arrest, Incarceration, judicial system, psychotherapy, record, Secrets, Shame, work

Parenting Life-Threatening Depression with Rachel

October 31, 2012 by ssradmin

This episode of Safe Space Radio features Rachel talking about her son’s severe depression and multiple suicide attempts. Rachel names the sense of ambiguous loss she feels now that her son lives in a state mental hospital, and how her daily visits to him can bring their own sense of shame and self-doubt. She offers …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions, Family and Lifecycle, Mental Health Tagged With: ambiguous loss, depression, healing, mental hospitals, mental illness, mothering, NAMI, National Alliance on Mental Illness, Parenting, psychiatric care, psychiatric institution, Shame, son, Suicide, Trauma

Having a Child with Schizophrenia with Cheryl Ramsay

September 26, 2012 by ssradmin

Safe Space Radio interviews Cheryl Ramsay about her two sons, one with schizophrenia who is in treatment and one with an undiagnosed mental illness and addiction who avoids the mental health system. Cheryl describes the deep self-doubt she feels about whether she somehow could have made a difference at each step of the way. She …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions, Family and Lifecycle, Mental Health Tagged With: Addiction & Recovery, community, doubt, Family, mental hospitals, mental illness, Parenting, psychiatric care, schizophrenia, Shame, sons

On Having a Mother with Bi-Polar Disorder with Valerie Gamache

September 19, 2012 by ssradmin

Safe Space Radio interviews family educator Valerie Gamache about her relationship with her mother who had bi-polar disorder.  Valerie describes the ways her family tried to keep the “Big Secret,” to the point that a friend thought her mother had actually died since Valerie spoke so little about her. She also talks about her encounters …read more »

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Filed Under: Family and Lifecycle, Mental Health Tagged With: ambiguous loss, bi polar, bipolar disorder, daughters, mental illness, Parents, Shame, stigma

Giving Up a Child For Adoption with Marilyn Bronzi

November 30, 2011 by ssradmin

This episode features clinical social worker and birth mother Marilyn Bronzi, who had a child “out of wedlock” in 1966. She remembers the shame of her choice and how she’s made peace with it in different ways over the years. She also describes the experience of reunification with her daughter Lisa, and the ways that …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions, Family and Lifecycle Tagged With: Adoption, birth mother, family dynamics, Parenting, Shame, teen pregnancy

Group Therapy for Trauma Survivors with Judy Herman

December 1, 2010 by ssradmin

Judy Harmon is a psychiatrist and Harvard Medical School professor. She talks about how group therapy for trauma can reduce shame and support survivors to take action that reduces helplessness. Dr. Herman describes the deep shame and isolation that accompany trauma, and how group therapy creates a community where members can give and receive empathy.

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Filed Under: Mental Health Tagged With: group therapy, isolation, psychiatric care, psychiatrist, Psychiatry, Shame, survivors, Trauma

The Inner Feelings of Bulimia with Julia Jarvis

September 29, 2010 by ssradmin

Julia Jarvis talks about her struggle with bulimia and her recovery. Julia describes her profound experience with feeling she was bad, and keeping a journal of her daily sins. She credits her recovery with the loosening of a rigid and punitive theology, prozac, and the community she found in Adult Children of Alcoholics.

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Filed Under: Emotions, Mental Health Tagged With: adult children of alcoholics, body image, bulemia, bulimia, community, diet culture, Eating Disorders, food, healing, medication, mental illness, Recovery, Shame, theology, Therapy

Privacy and Shame with Janna Smith

June 23, 2010 by ssradmin

Janna Smith is an author and social worker. In this episode of Safe Space Radio, she discusses the relationship between privacy and shame. She describes her own struggle over how much to reveal about her father Bernard Malamud, and how to respect both his and her privacy while also confronting her shame about being compared …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions, Family and Lifecycle Tagged With: daughter, family dynamics, father, internal family systems, isolation, Parents, privacy, Shame, writer

Shame and Resilience with Brene Brown

June 9, 2010 by ssradmin

Brene Brown is the author of Daring Greatly and chair of the graduate college of social work at University of Houston. In this episode of Safe Spcae Radio, Brene talks about shame resilience, and how we can learn to embrace our vulnerability. Brene describes the consequences of denying our vulnerability including clinging to false certainties and …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions, Mental Health Tagged With: difficult emotions, Hidden Emotions, resiliency, Shame, social work, vulnerability

Shame & Humiliation with Aaron Lazare

June 2, 2010 by ssradmin

An interview with psychiatrist Aaron Lazare about his work with humiliation and apology. Aaron says that you know you’ve been humiliated when you find yourself rehearsing better and better comebacks that you wish you had said at the time. He states the importance of not acting then when filled with righteous, and often vengeful rage. …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions Tagged With: apologies, dignity, Hidden Emotions, Humiliation, revenge, Shame, vulnerability

Suicide Among Returning Vets with Pete MacMullen

May 12, 2010 by ssradmin

Pete MacMullen is the Suicide Prevention Coordinator for Veterans Affairs in Maine. Pete describes the painful readjustment recently returned vets face in trying to relate to their peers and the warning signs of suicide risk for families. He tries to help young vets lift the self-judgment and isolation they struggle with.

Filed Under: Mental Health Tagged With: death and dying, Hidden Emotions, Iraq War, isolation, mental illness, PTSD, readjustment, relationships, service, Shame, soldier, Suicide, VA, veterans, veterans affairs, veterans health

Suicide Among Gay Youth with Charles Robins

May 5, 2010 by ssradmin

Charles Robbins is CEO of the Trevor Project, an organization dedicated to preventing suicide among gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and queer youth. Charles describes the vulnerable time in a young person’s life after they realize they are queer, but before they have found accepting others to share it with. Charles describes his own story of …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions, Mental Health, Sexuality Tagged With: coming out, death and dying, difficult conversations, family dynamics, gay teens, LGBTQ, LGBTQ teens, queer teens, queer youth, Shame, Suicide, teenagers, Teens, trevor project, vulnerability

The Suicide of a Child with Patricia Ellen

April 21, 2010 by ssradmin

Patricia Ellen’s son killed himself when he was fourteen. Patricia describes the process of trying to understand what led up to it, and the signs that were and were not there. She describes the bullying incident at school that she believes led her son to suicide. Patricia movingly describes the many years long process of …read more »

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Filed Under: Emotions, Family and Lifecycle, Mental Health Tagged With: blame, Bullying, children, death and dying, death of a child, grief, grieving, loss of a child, Parenting, Parents, Shame, sons, Suicide, teenagers, Teens, Trauma

People of Size with Rebecca Weinstein

October 28, 2009 by ssradmin

Rebecca Weinstein is founder of PeopleofSize.com. In this interview she discusses the experience of being a large person in today’s culture. Rebecca states that 90% of her problems come from dealing with other people’s perceptions. She talks specifically about difficulties with the medical profession and receiving shaming and discriminatory comments.

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Filed Under: Mental Health Tagged With: body image, body positivity, Bullying, diet culture, discrimination, medical enounter, Medical Trauma, Obesity, patient, patient doctor relationship, people of size, physical health, Shame

Mothering as Hero’s Journey with Nicole Chaison

July 15, 2009 by ssradmin

Nicole Chaison is author of The Passion of the Hausfrau about the experience of motherhood as a form of the mythic hero’s journey. She speaks about the courage it took to write honestly about her experiences as a mother and her struggles with both shame and loyalty in deciding to go public with her stories.

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Filed Under: Emotions, Family and Lifecycle Tagged With: Bad Mother Anxiety, hero's journey, Hidden Emotions, motherhood, mothering, mothers, myth, Parenting, personal narrative, raising children, Shame, vulnerability

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