An interview with Drew Wing, executive director of Boys To Men, an organization devoted to reducing interpersonal violence by fostering the healthy development of boys. Drew describes their Reducing Sexism and Violence Program (RSVP), working with teenagers to develop empathy for the experience of others, and to clarify their potential roles as bystanders who can intervene in situations of violent speech, attitudes or behavior. Drew describes the chilling story of Kitty Genovese’s murder that was witnessed by many who did nothing to help. He describes the importance of doing something early and taking any action possible to help de-escalate a violent situation. He also described the ways that our current culture of masculinity, which emphasizes violence, sexual conquest, and slacker culture contributes to assumptions of superiority and entitlement among men. RSVP aims to challenge this understanding of masculinity and its representation in the media in order for both men and women to feel safer to be themselves.
An interview with parenting expert, Adele Faber, co-author with Elaine Mazlish of the best-selling, Siblings Without Rivalry and, How to Talk so Kids will Listen, and Listen so Kids will Talk. Adele speaks about the importance of listening to and validating kids feelings about their siblings, no matter how uncomfortable they make us. She uses the analogy of how you would feel if your spouse brought home another wife, or another husband who you were expected to care for and share your things with. She models empathic responses that parents can give to their children’s anger, jealousy and even hatred of their siblings. She also acknowledges that it is common and normal to find yourself more drawn to one of your children, and that the feelings alone are not hurtful to your child. She offers helpful ways to behave such that the unique gifts of each child are seen and celebrated.